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"Three Big Words for
Marriage" By Paul Miller
Re-Defining Marriage
A July, 2002 ruling by the Ontario
Divisional Court set in motion a process
that appears to overturned a centuries-old
understanding of marriage and reconstructed
it on new and untried foundations. The
court declared that Canada’s marriage laws,
by defining marriage as the union of a man
and a woman, violate the Charter of Rights
by excluding gays and lesbians. However,
the decision did not come out of nowhere
as it might seem at first sight. The court’s
ruling mirrors a profound shift in sexual
mores that has been going on in Canadian
society for years. The decision and the subsequent
passage of parliamentary legislation
permitting same-sex marriage formalizes
in law Canada’s emergence as perhaps
the world’s first truly postmodern nation.
Furthermore, efforts of organizations like
the Evangelical Fellowship of Canada and
the Roman Catholic Church and a vocal
minority of politicians have failed to stop
the trend. Same sex marriage has been
defined as a matter of Charter rights, which,
in the present climate, is effectively a conversation
stopper. In the minds of the
media, political, social and intellectual
elites, the justice of same-sex marriage is
simply self-evident and beyond rational dissent.
An Appropriate Response
This calls for great wisdom on the part
of those who worry about the long-term consequences
of what is happening. The legislative
battle has been lost because it is not a
matter of one act of parliament, but of a
massive social readjustment. Canada, along
with Belgium and Spain, has legalized same
sex marriages. The question now is: How can
those who regard traditional marriage as the
will of God and the foundation of a humane
society best use their energies?
I want to argue that a fruitful and
faithful long-term strategy will involve a
strong rearticulation of the foundations,
benefits and promises of marriage as it is
understood in Scripture and Christian tradition.
Postmodernity may in fact be a blessing
in disguise because if it is really true
that there is no absolutely privileged discourse
but that all ideas can at least claim a
hearing, then the traditional Christian
approach has every bit as much right to be
heard as any other. I suggest we take
advantage of this rather than simply railing
against it. There is an opportunity for
Christians to proclaim anew that the sexual,
emotional, social and procreative union of
one man and one woman in a lifelong
covenant of faithfulness constitutes a
unique and God-ordained ordering of
human relationships with many benefits for
both individuals and society. Such a strategy
recognizes the empirical fact of pluralism
but does not acquiesce in it. It allows marriage
to stand on its own merits and presents
our narcissistic and hedonistic culture
with a truly counter-cultural alternative.
As painful as it might be, churches
simply must accept their growing marginalization
in Canadian society. But as minority
status envigorated the early church, so it
may inject new energy into a Canadian
Church that has lost its way. For it seems to
me that the much lamented irrelevance of
the churches stems not from the irrelevance
of their message as from their desire to beg
for a few crumbs of legitimacy from the cultured
despisers of religion. Churches have
fallen into the trap of thinking that if they
can just mimic the surrounding culture well
enough, that culture will regard the church
with a sympathetic eye. Just the reverse has
happened. The more the church has become
indistinguishable from the culture, the less
motivation people have to get out of bed
on Sunday morning. Christians need to reconcile
themselves to living in a secularized
and radically pluralistic context, but then to
recommit themselves to declaring the
Gospel of Jesus Christ to that context.
A Doctrinal Foundation for Marriage
Such a renewed proclamation will
include a new vision of marriage built on
the foundation of classical Christian theology
and anthropology. Our understanding of
marriage needs to be worked out within a
framework of Christian doctrine. By doctrine
I do not mean just fixed credal formulas but
more the ongoing process of critical and
prayerful reflection on the ways of the God
who is revealed in Jesus Christ. The insights
of modern psychology and theories of
human development will be incorporated
into our understanding. But these insights
will be interpreted in the light of the more
foundational reality of the Gospel.
Stanley Grenz is one theologian who
has thought about human sexuality in general
and marriage in particular through the
lens of one Christian doctrine, namely, the
Trinity. Grenz constructs his theology around
the unifying concept of community. Human
community imitates the dynamic communion
of love between the three persons of
the Godhead. Trinitarian communion is the
foundation of all godly relationships,
according to Grenz, but especially of malefemale
relationships. Crucial in this regard is
the concept of the imago Dei which, according
to the Book of Genesis, is bound up
with the creation of humankind as sexually
differentiated, male and female. Christian
marriage, Grenz argues, is the key form of cal doctrine.
It refers specifically to Jesus
Christ but not to human beings in general.
The doctrine of the Incarnation describes in
formal terms the "union of human nature
with the divine in one person" . That union
occurred uniquely in Jesus Christ, the only
begotten Son of God. Properly incarnational
theology is a corrective to the modern
anthropocentric tendency to see Jesus as
merely an extraordinary example of that
which is true of all of us, the perfection of
the God-conscious human being, one who
succeeded in discovering "the God within"
and who inspires us to do the same. Jesus
is not the epitome of homo religiosus but
the Word of God made flesh. As the theologian
P. T. Forsyth has reminded us, the reason
Christ has the power to save is not
because he is like us but because he is
unlike us.We do not participate in incarnation
directly and immediately but only indirectly
and through the mediation of Christ.
The Incarnation affirms the
Created order.
If marriage is incarnational, then, it
must be so in a derivative, analogical or
metaphorical sense – and yet for all that, I
would argue it is so in a very real sense.
Two aspects of the doctrine of the incarnation
are relevant in making this case.
First, through the Incarnation, God
confirms the goodness of the created
world. The doctrine was formulated initially
in response to Gnosticism and later
Docetism which denigrated the material
order in general and the human body in
particular as irredeemably corrupt.
Theologians like Colin Gunton have done a
great service by rediscovering the insights
of the Church Fathers who battled against
those heresies, most notably in the creation-
centred incarnational theology of
Irenaeus of Lyons. The famous saying of
Irenaeus that "Jesus became like us that
we might become like him" reflects the
Eastern view that Christ took on human
flesh in order to restore the divine image in
humankind and to heal the breach between
the creation and its Creator. This is in
marked contrast to Western Christology
which had a more much legal-juridical
emphasis, interpreting Christ’s earthly life
and death almost entirely in terms of a sacrifice
for sin. A more positive Christology
affirms that Christ became human in order
to restore something good rather than simply
to excise something bad.
This is a key theological building
block for a fully-orbed understanding of
Christian marriage because marriage takes
very seriously our embodiment as male and
female. Our sexuality is bound to the
inescapable fact that human beings come
in two types, male and female. This needs
to be boldly asserted in the face of a gender-
bending postmodernity in which sexual
identity is not something given but something
constructed according to the free
choice of the individual. The Lutheran ethicist
and theologian Gilbert Meilaender has
pointed out how strangely disembodied the
postmodern attitude towards sex has
become. In a review of James Nelson’s
famous book Embodiment, (the Bible of liberal
Christian sexual revisionism in the
1980s), Meilaender notes the curious tension
in our culture between an obsession
with bodies on the one hand but sexuality
seen in terms of inward disposition and
feeling on the other. 5Contemporary sexual
ideology, Meilaender argues, in spite of its
rhetoric of embodiment, rejects the foundational
duality of male and female and opts
for a dualism in which body and soul are
effectively alienated from one another.
Meilaender notes that "only a dualistic age
could … imagine that sexual encounters
between persons not committed to a permanent
union are ‘casual’ since a bodily
commitment need not involve the persons."
Popular culture confirms this insight. In
movies and soap operas, what does the
adulterous husband always say to the devastated
wife when his affair is discovered?
"It didn’t mean anything to me. It was just
physical. It doesn’t affect how I feel about
you" That personal commitment can be
separated from physical union in a nonpathological
or health-promoting way is a
profoundly dualistic idea which fails to
honor our embodiment.
Much more realistic is the attitude of
St. Paul that a union of the body necessarily
involves an entanglement of souls (1 Cor 6:
15-16); that promiscuity is a wrong not
because it violates a moral code but
because it is destructive of God-given personality.
"Everything is permissible," Paul
says, "but not everything is beneficial" (1
Cor 6;12.)
In his classic study Love in the
Western World, Denis de Rougement credits
the Incarnation with permitting us to avoid
"the double peril of humanism and idealism."
The Christian doctrine of the
Incarnation maintains in careful balance
the imminent and transcendent aspects of
life, relating them but not confusing them.
Incarnational marriage is neither the pursuit
of a quasi-sacred (and ultimately unattainable)
romantic ideal; nor the mere coupling
of bodies for convenience or pleasure.
It neither pretends that through sexuality
we may attain the divine nor contents itself
with the merely human; but celebrates the
God who took on human flesh.
Such an analysis suggests very
strongly that normative sexuality means the
physical union of male and female within
the context of a covenant commitment.
Scripture, I think it can be argued, presents
marriage as that God-given form of human
relationship in which the creative potential
of the male-female sexual differentiation is
realized and in which human sexual desire
is ordered in a constructive rather than
destructive direction. This raises the question
whether expressions of genital sexuality
that depart from the norm ought to be
considered immoral or wrong. There will be
a wide spectrum of responses to this question
among Christians. But it seems to me
that, given the very real social, spiritual,
physical and psychological benefits that
accrue to individuals and the community
from heterosexual marriage, Christians can
make a very good case for the traditional
understanding of marriage as God’s primary
intention for the human race.
The Image of God
The issue of embodiment also relates
to the biblical concept of the image of God.
Scripture is quite uninformative as to the
precise meaning of this term which has
played such an important role in Christian
anthropology. However, the Book of
Genesis makes it clear that our maleness
and femaleness cannot be separated from
our creation in God’s image and likeness.
God’s intention is that man and woman
live in harmonious mutuality (Gen 2: 20-
25.) The shattering of male-female relationships,
the imbalance of power that issues in
patriarchy, misogyny, and the alienation of
the sexes is a consequence of the fall (Gen
3:16), not an intention of creation.
Whatever else the image of God passages
in the Bible might mean, it seems
that the image of God is to be realized in
communion with one who is different.
Again, Gilbert Meilaender: "The mutuality
for which we are destined is a loving union
of those who are other." Now, it’s a truism
of modern individualism that each person
is created unique and there is nobody
else quite like me. However, the foundational
differentiation between human
beings is sexual. Distinctions of class, culture,
creed and even race and ethnicity can
be transcended by an act of will; but try as
we might, we cannot cross the great divide
and live as a member of the opposite sex.
(We’ll bracket the case of transgendered
sexuality and other exotica for the
moment.) In other words, as a man, there
are dimensions of human experience that
are by definition hidden from me. I cannot,
even by an act of imagination, really know
what it is like to be a woman, even though
I share with women a bond of common
humanity. I cannot know what it is to menstruate,
to bear a child, to experience sexual
pleasure as a woman does. Feminists
have taught us that these embodied experiences
shape women’s whole emotional,
psychological and social being. Nature and
nurture, biology and socialization are intertwined.
There are aspects of femaleness,
then, that I can never ever bring within the
horizon of my experience, to say that I
know what they are like. And, because I am
taught that the image of God encompasses
both maleness and femaleness, that means
I can never lay claim to a complete understanding
of God’s image, apart from communion
with members of the opposite sex.
I need women to complete a full appreciation
of humanity.
Stanley Grenz has argued eloquently
that God’s encounter with humankind is for
the purpose of creating community – community
that mirrors in an imperfect way the
perfect communion of love within the
Trinity. True community brings together
those who are unalike, who are separated
from one another by barriers of nature. For
this reason, community must involve struggle,
the hard labor of recognizing the work
of God in the one who is not and cannot
be like me. True community, by definition,
breaks down barriers. Community that
includes only those who are like one another
fails to plumb the depths of the divine
image. And so the community of male and
female, of those are so alike and yet so
profoundly different from one another,
becomes the basic paradigm of all community.
We must avoid suggesting, however,
that those who are unmarried are somehow
less than fully human, or that marriage
is the only legitimate form malefemale
relationships can take. Such a claim
would be absurd. Karl Barth says that
"marriage should be understood in terms
of the male/female distinction" but that
"the latter [is] the more fundamental reality."
However, it does suggest that marriage
is a gift of God through which the
majority of persons can explore and express
the mystery of the imago Dei and, as such,
marriage ought to have a unique place of
honor in the constellation of human relationships.
This also does not deny the possibility
of committed, loving, other-centred same
sex relationships. Christians need to
acknowledge the empirical reality that
there are gays and lesbians who express a
very real kind of fidelity in their commitments
to one another. However, the broad
theological vision of the Bible, suggests
very strongly that, no matter how these
relationships might be ritualized or formalized
and whatever their virtues, they are
not marriages. Civil society may define marriage
primarily in terms of human rights or
individual commitment. Courts and legislatures
may mandate an equal status in the
eyes of the law. But the Christian vision of
marriage is not grounded primarily in the
aspirations and emotional commitments of
individuals but in that pattern of interrelatedness
appropriate to our creation as male
and female.
Incarnation and Agape
The third aspect of the Incarnation
that informs our understanding of marriage,
an aspect that is often obscured in
polemics surrounding the role of religious
belief in power relations, is its self-giving,
self-emptying nature. According to the
Christological hymn in Philippians 2: 5-11,
Jesus became human by setting aside the
glory that was rightly his as God’s equal, in
an act of marvellous condescension motivated
purely out of obedience to the Father
and love for the Father’s world.
Furthermore, the preamble to that hymn
says that our attitude should be that of
Christ Jesus; implying that we should labor
to mirror the same kind of self-giving that
Jesus modeled when he took human form.
Once again, this is hardly true only of
marriages. But a fully-orbed Christian
understanding of marriage will stress that
we are called in all of our relationships,
including our marriages, to embody the
self-giving love of Christ. If husbands and
wives could learn true Christ-likeness,
would we be talking about the crisis in
which marriage finds itself? Would opponents
of traditionally ordered sexual relationships
be able to discredit marriage as
soul-destroying and life-denying? As we
attempt to give a full account of the glory
of Christian marriage, and as the church
seeks to guide and support couples in their
marriages, we need to hold up marriage as
a vocation to self-giving.
Marriage as Sacramental.
The second big word for marriage is
sacramental. Again, we must begin with a
qualification and clarification. Roman
Catholic and Orthodox tradition defines
marriage as a sacrament, meaning that it is
indissoluble and that it is regulated by the
Church. I’m too much of a Protestant to
think of marriage in these terms. However,
there are elements of the sacramental
vision of marriage that can enrich our
understanding. So far as I know, Augustine
was the first to refer to marriage as sacramentum,
by which he meant a permanent
and indissoluble union. Along with procreativity
and sexual fidelity, Augustine counted
permanence as one of the intrinsic
goods of marriage. Augustine’s schema
was refined and codified by Aquinas and
subsequent canon law. It was a vision of
marriage rooted in a Christian natural law,
indebted to both Aristotle and the Stoics.
Marriage is a sacrament in the sense that it
is an action carried out by the church which
effects the grace that it signifies. In other
words, the sacramental act ex opere operato
(according to the thing as it is performed)
has the power to actually bring the
believer into a saving relationship with God
because Christ is present and active in it.
The Protestant understanding of
sacraments is somewhat different. It tends
to emphasize more their instrumental quality
as means of grace rather than the inherent
efficacy of the act itself. This suggests
that marriage is not so much an end in
itself as a means to an end. And in fact
Protestant doctrines of marriage have
stressed the covenant promise between the
spouses committing themselves to imitate
the covenant faithfulness of God.
Furthermore, sacramentality is closely
related to the Incarnation. It testifies to the
willingness of God to use created things as
channels of grace. In a sense, all creation is
"sacramental" because God works through
everyday things. As Romans 1.20 says, the
invisible qualities of God are clearly seen in
the things that God has made. This echoes
the Jewish idea of the hallowing of the
ordinary. The Jewish physician and ethicist
Leon Kass writes that "our ordinary experience
of life in the world may be the privileged
road to the deepest truth." This
comes close to expressing the Protestant
understanding of the sacraments. The formal,
liturgical sacraments of baptism and
the Lord’s Supper are special instances of a
divine reality at the heart of creation: God
uses created things as channels of grace.
Marriage as a Sign
With the foregoing in mind, I want to
suggest two aspects of sacramentality that
are particularly relevant to marriage. First,
sacraments possess a "sign" quality; that
is, their value is not inherent but derives
from that greater reality to which they
point. The fidelity between husband and
wife can be a sign, a testimony to, a proclamation
of the covenant fidelity of God.
Again, Gilbert Meilaender, with characteristic
perceptiveness, points out that faithfulness
to a life-long commitment is something
that is profoundly unnatural. Human
beings do not naturally enter into or keep
commitments "for better or for worse,"
particularly when that commitment is tied
to sexual exclusivity. To actualize such a
commitment requires that human beings,
especially the male of the species, not
embrace but, to an extent, overcome that
which comes naturally. Insofar as such
fidelity is a human possibility, it will transcend
natural inclinations and desires, seeking
fulfillment in a reality at once higher
and deeper than our own good intentions.
It is possible to honor a commitment to a
life-long marriage only if that marriage is
"touched by the eternal." Marriage, in a
sense, is truly supernatural.When a man
and a woman are, by grace, enabled to live
up to such a commitment, they become a
sign of its possibility in a world where
everything is presumed to be transient,
ephemeral, subject to shifting emotions and
circumstances. Marriage stands as a sign
not only to other marriages but to humanity
at large of the possibility that we can live
in agapic love. We cannot, nor do we want
to, resurrect the patristic-scholastic notion
of marriage as indissoluble and therefore
sacramental. However, its quality as a sign
of God-like covenant fidelity gives to marriage
a sacramental quality.
The Fruitfulness of Marriage
The second sacramental aspect of
marriage could be described as its fruitfulness.
Again, we can benefit from the thaw
in Protestant-Catholic relations and the
willingness to enrich our own understanding
through the insights of another tradition.
Fruitfulness as a social and ethical category
has been developed in Catholic moral
teaching which emphasizes the cultivation
of habits leading to virtues. This ethical orientation
is rooted in Aristotle’s dictum that
the just man is the one who acts justly.
Virtues are acquired through practice. One
of the primary virtues of marriage is fruitfulness.
Many see fruitfulness only in terms of
child-bearing but its significance goes far
beyond that. Fruitfulness is "a capacity to
generate life and nurture it." It includes,
but is not restricted to, biological procreativity.
Marriage has the potential to issue
in "new life." Marriage is the paradigm of
human relating which results in something
bigger than itself. Fruitfulness is closely
related to another virtue, generativity,
which is "a willingness to use my power
responsibly to serve life that goes beyond
myself." We might say that through this or
that particular marriage, good things may
come into being which were not there
before and would otherwise not exist. This
is reflective of God’s power to make something
out of nothing, to bring light from
darkness, community from alienation, life
from death.
Generativity and fruitfulness entail an
orientation to the future, which is always a
"movement of self-transcendence." One’s
care and concern is devoted to that which
is not yet, which goes beyond one’s immediate
desires. This understanding of marriage,
it seems to me, is a powerful challenge
to the prevailing idea of both marriage
and parenthood as a means for
achieving personal happiness and individual
fulfillment.
Marriage as Eschatological
The third big word for marriage is
eschatological. This is counterintuitive.
Eschatology is the doctrine of the ultimate
future and the last things and what could
be more this-worldly and present-oriented
than marriage? Christian eschatology properly
understood, however, does not isolate
the future from the present but integrates
them seamlessly. Eschatology concerns the
divine telos of all creation -- that creation
will be renewed and God’s will will be done
on earth as it is in heaven. Eschatologies
that are obsessed only with the future resurrection
of believers and the destruction of
sinners have more in common with Gnostic
and Manichean dualism than with biblical
faith. Unfortunately, Protestant theology
beginning at least with Schleiermacher
tended to relegate eschatology to an afterthought
in the mistaken belief that it was
only concerned with the future, and therefore
of no immediate relevance to Christian
experience. One of the most promising features
of contemporary theology is the
recovery of a genuine eschatological orientation.
Theologians like Jurgen Moltmann,
Wolfhart Pannenberg, Robert Jenson and
Ted Peters have performed an invaluable
service to the church by restoring eschatology
to its rightful place.
At its root, Christian eschatology
declares that what God has started, God
will complete.We hear often that
Christianity is an historical religion. Among
the many meanings of that statement is
that God’s work will have an end as well as
a beginning. And yet, in a very real sense,
what is happening in the present is permeated
by what has been guaranteed of the
future. The Kingdom promised by the
prophets, announced and inaugurated by
Jesus and lived by the church will be consummated
in the last days. Pauline and
Deutero-Pauline theology is thoroughly
infused with the idea that God will bring all
things to completion in Jesus Christ (Phil
1:6; Eph 1:10; Rom 8) ; that the love incarnated
in Christ at a moment in history and
shed abroad in the hearts of believers by
the Holy Spirit will be the sole ruling principle
of all creation. Eschatology could be
considered, then, the formal articulation of
Christian hope.
The Eschatological Future is
Contained in the Present.
And yet we know that hope in the
future colors the present at every turn.
There is an ambiguity in the Bible between
what has been accomplished and what
shall be accomplished. It is often not clear
in the Hebrew prophets, for example,
whether they are talking about the present
or the future.When the Second Isaiah says,
for example "’Comfort, comfort my people’
says your God, speak tenderly to Jerusalem
and say to her that her hard service has
been completed" (Is 40) – is the prophet
talking about something realized in the
present or anticipated in the future? In one
sense, he is referring to an event in time,
the end of the Exile; but it is by no means
clear that the exile was actually over when
these words were uttered. Furthermore, the
meaning of this passage as Scripture is not
exhausted by its historical referent. Indeed,
the very reason it was preserved as
Scripture by communities of faith was their
conviction that it had to do with an ongoing
hope, not simply a completed event in
the past.
Jesus told many parables about the
coming Kingdom that were couched in the
metaphor of present alertness. Because the
people of God expect the Kingdom which is
to come, they are to be vigilant and always
prepared in the present moment (e.g., Mt
22: 1-14//Lk 14: 16-24; Mt 24: 36-51// Mk
13: 32-37.) . Both Luke and Paul speak of
the Holy Spirit as a harbinger or guarantee
of what is yet to come. In Acts, Luke
describes the outpouring of the Spirit as the
concrete evidence that the future messianic
age is a present reality. Signs and wonders
(Acts 2:1-21), unity (Acts 2: 42-27; 4:32-
35; 10: 34-36) and perseverance (Acts 16:
16-34) in the church, confirm that the hope
of Jesus’ people is not in vain. Paul
describes the Spirit as a downpayment or
guarantee of our full inheritance which is
yet to come (2 Cor 5:5; Eph 1: 13-14.) New
Testament eschatology teaches us that we
do not experience the Kingdom in its complete
reality; but we are sure that it will
come because of the signs of its coming
are already present.
Eschatology an Antidote to
Perfectionism.
So Christian eschatology speaks of
the "future-present" of God’s redemption
and the "already-but-not-yet" quality of
Christian faith. And it is vital to maintain a
balance between both poles. The Kingdom,
though not fully present, is still really present
through the power of the Holy Spirit.
But the reverse is equally true. The
Kingdom, though really present, is not fully
present. Christ has come, but the church
still prays, "Come, Lord Jesus." This last
point is especially important because it
safeguards against the scourges of
Christian idealism and perfectionism.We
are able to envision the promised Kingdom
of justice and peace and to see true signs
of its reality in the here and now. But we
are not driven to discouragement or despair
because our lives do not fully reflect that
rule.
Christian perfectionists condemn or
abandon the present because of its failure
to live up to an ideal. For that reason,
Christian perfectionism can take a heavy
toll on human relationships because no
matter how hard we try or how good our
intentions, in real life people will always fall
short of the glory of God. Because they fixate
on the promised ideal, Christian perfectionists
cannot be reconciled to the actuality
of life in the present. Leo Tolstoy, for
example, became more and more rigidly
committed to the ideals of the Sermon on
the Mount, believing that anything less
than a perfect observance of Jesus’ commands
was a failure of faith. But in his zeal
to actualize the ideals of Christlike love
Tolstoy became something of a misanthrope.
He neglected his children and
abused his wife. He became utterly intolerant
of human weakness. Tolstoy’s perfectionism
made him a very difficult person to
live with, admired by the masses, but a
tyrant to those closest to him. Interestingly,
Tolstoy became fiercely contemptuous of
sexuality and marriage as fatal concessions
to carnality and contrary to the spiritual
ideals of Jesus. His short story "The
Kreutzer Sonata" is about a man who
despises the very idea of his marriage so
passionately he kills his wife. The story is a
thinly veiled description of Tolstoy’s own
deeply conflicted feelings and he demonstrated
the depths of his cruelty by insisting
that his wife Sonia correct and edit the
manuscript for publication.
Because marriage is incarnational and
sacramental, husbands and wives cannot
separate their devotion to Christ from their
day to day treatment of one another. They
are enjoined to "submit to one another out
of reverence for Christ" (Eph 5:21) and to
show forth Christ-like virtues. In this way
they can stand as a sign to the world of the
possibility of agapic love.
However, because Christian marriage
is a sign of eschatological hope, pointing
beyond itself to a not-yet-realized consummation,
it cannot be discredited by the
empirical shortcomings of individual marriages.
By the grace of God, we are enabled
to show forth the Kingdom realities of forbearance,
reconciliation and unity; but to
accept that they will not be perfect and
complete in themselves because they are
eschatological. The presence of these gracious
realities is not negated by their
absence at other moments. There are times
in each marriage that we can identify as
moments of kairos, luminous with the
promised reconciliation of all things in
Christ. The essential thing to realize is that
the value of these times is not annulled
because there are other times when we do
not behave as we should. Our goal is not
to actualize some human ideal of perfection
but to be heralds of God. If couples can
learn to discern the patterns of grace in
their own marriages, those moments will
illuminate the long stretches of humdrum
routine or painful conflict that every marriage
must endure, redeeming them with
the promise that even though we fall short
of perfection here and now, the love of God
cannot in the end be defeated. At any
moment, it may break in in all its glory and
will fill the whole universe at the end.
Marriage should have the teleological orientation
of a pilgrimage in which both
spouses participate in a growing Christ-likeness
and a journey towards communion
with God.
Christianity’s Gift to
Contemporary Culture: A
Renewed Vision of Marriage
Regardless of how Christian communities
respond to the redefining of malefemale
relationships and the nature of the
family, it seems to me that we are compelled
by Scripture and tradition to affirm
the goodness and uniqueness of marriage.
This reaffirmation should be grounded in a
deep reflection of what we know of Jesus
Christ as the full revelation of God.We
should not rest content with a few pious
platitudes about inclusivity or tolerance that
have more to do with modern individualism
than with the Gospel. A renewed understanding
of marriage using the full
resources of Christian tradition will be the
Church’s best gift to a society which is profoundly
confused and disordered in its
understanding of human sexuality. Couples
caught up in the rampant consumerism of
the wedding industry can be taught to treat
their marriages with the awe and reverence
they deserve.We will see that marriage
takes seriously our God-ordained embodiment
as male and female; that marriage
stands as a sign of fidelity in a world contemptuous
of commitments; and that marriage
anticipates in the present the future
communion we will enjoy with God when
Christ the bridegroom comes to claim his
bride.
1See Michael Adams, Fire and Ice: The United States, Canada
and the Myth of Converging Values (Toronto: Penguin
Canada, 2003.)
2Stanley Grenz, "Theological Foundations for Male-Female
Relationships," Crux 35:3 (1999): 2-14; Theology for the
Community of God (Grand Rapids: Wm. B. Eerdmans,
2000), 53-76; Sexual Ethics: An Evangelical Perspective
(Louisville: Westminster/John Knox Press, 1990) passim.
Thomas Oden, The Word of Life (Systematic Theology
Volume 2) ( San Francisco: Harper Collins, 1989), 94.
Gilbert Meilaender, "Marital Community" in The Limits of
Love: Some Theological Explorations (University Park, Pa:
Pennsylvania State University Press, 1987), 115-129.
Ibid., 117.
Denis de Rougement, Love in the Western World,
Montgomery Belgion, trans., revised edition (New York:
Pantheon, 1956), 153.
Meilaender, "Marital Community", 128.
David Popenoe, "Modern Marriage: Revising the Cultural
Script" in David Popenoe, Jean Bethke Elshtain and David
Blankenhorn, ed., Promises to Keep: The Decline and
Renewal of Marriage in America (Lanham, Maryland:
Rowman & Littlefield, 1996), 256-260.
Quoted in P. K. Jewett, Man as Male and Female: A Study
in Sexual Relationships, (Grand Rapids: Wm. B. Eerdmans,
1975), 34.
John Witte Jr., "The Goods and Goals of Marriage: The
Health Paradigm in Historical Perspective" in John Wall, Don
Browning, William J. Doherty and Stephen Post, ed.,
Marriage, Health and the Professions (Grand Rapids: Wm. B.
Eerdmans, 2002), 58-59.
Ibid, 72-73.
Ibid., 74.
Leon R. Kass, The Hungry Soul: Eating and the Perfecting of
our Nature (New York: The Free Press, 1994), 8.
"To make naturally polygamous men accept the conventional
institution of monogamous marriage has been the work of
centuries of Western civilization, with social sanctions, backed
by religious teachings and authority, as the major instruments
of transformation…" Leon R. Kass and Amy A. Kass,
"Introduction" to Wing to Wing, Oar to Oar: Readings on
Courtship and Marriage (Notre Dame, Ind.: University of
Notre Dame Press, 2000), 14.
Gilbert Meilaender, "Touched by the Eternal," Theology
Today 50:4 (1994): 535-542.
Gilbert Meilaender, "Marriage in Harmony and
Counterpoint" in Things That Count: Essays Moral and
Theological (Wilmington, Del.: ISI Books. 2000), 43.
Evelyn Eaton Whitehead and James D. Whitehead, Marrying
Well: Possibilities in Christian Marriage Today (Garden City,
N.Y.: Doubleday & Company, Inc., 1981), 235.
Ibid., 238.
Ibid.
See Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, "The Decline of Marriage" in
David Popenoe, Jean Bethke Elshtain and David Blankenhorn,
ed., Promises to Keep: Decline and Renewal of Marriage In
America, (Lanham, Md.: Rowan &Littlefield Publishers,
1996), esp. 4-5 for an analysis of the individualistic, narcissistic
understanding of contemporary marriage.
This article is a revision of a paper delivered at McMaster
Divinity College on October 28 , 2003.
A Wind Through The Andes
By Andrew Stirling
This essay is based on research conducted
in Chile in February 2005 in
preparation for a course on ‘Great
Christian Thinkers’ to be taught at
the School of Continuing Studies at
the University of Toronto in the Fall
of 2005. Thanks are expressed to the
Santiago Community Church and Mr.
David Libby of AUR resources for
making the visit possible.
He was an unassuming looking man
dressed in a plain golf shirt and well worn
slippers. Upon greeting me with a warm
handshake he directed me into a small
room furnished only with a couple of chairs
and a picture of Pope John Paul II hanging
on the wall. My host’s command of the
English language was superb, "I am Jose
Aldunate and I am pleased to meet you. I
have only visited Canada once and that
was to present a paper in Edmonton and
my only lasting impression, apart from the
cold, was a very big shopping mall with a
lake in it!" he said with a glint of humour
in his eyes. "Hardly the height of culture" I
thought, but at least he was somewhat
familiar with our nation. As I came to discover
over the next two hours, this gentlemen
who lived in a residence on the Alonso
de Ovalle Boulevard in Santiago, Chile was
one of the most influential figures in the
Church’s struggle for justice and peace. He
had recently authored Cronicos de una iglesia
liberadora and is considered by many to
be one of the leading Jesuit theologians in
South America. He told me that he had
been an adviser on the writing of the
morals and ethics portion of the Second
Vatican Council. There was no doubt from
our conversation that I was in the presence
of a great mind and a courageous soul.
The purpose of my interview was to
meet with influential Chilean Christians to
discover how they were reacting to the
changes taking place in their country and
to discern what lessons the Canadian
church can learn from their experience.
Furthermore, next year will be the celebration
of the 30th anniversary of the founding
of the Vicaria de la Solidaridad and I
was intrigued to know what lasting affects
this profound mission had on the church’s
witness. Aldunate was frank and open with
me. He recounted the days when under the
rule of the Pinochet regime many Roman
Catholics and Protestants had resisted the
government’s policies. They did so in a practical
and positive manner by creating the
Vicariate. The purpose of this organization
was to assist labourers who had lost their
jobs for political reasons and to support
political prisoners who were victims of government
oppression. At the height of the
conflict, it employed 400 administrators,
lawyers, doctors and social workers and its
influence spread from the Catholic Diocese
of Santiago to 15 other diocese in the
country. As an integral part of the organization,
Aldunate expressed particular gratitude
for the financial support of ecumenical
agencies from overseas such as the German
Bishop’s Fund, the World Council of
Churches and the United Church of Canada
who helped them through the difficult
years. The development of the Vicariate was
so expansive that they eventually created
the Vicaria de Pastoral Obrera (the workers
ministry) that employed lawyers to make
inquiries, file petitions, visit detainees and
comfort friends and families of those who
were imprisoned for their political opposition
to the government. No other organization
in the country was able to speak so
cogently on the issue of human rights and
by the mid 1980’s the Vicariate had assisted
30,000 people, and via their department
of communications eventually reached
700,000 people who became involved in
parish based communities of support. They
achieved some of their goals by enabling
the poor to work together in faith communities
by producing goods which they eventually
sold in the marketplace. This provided
a means for the unemployed to support
themselves financially while at the same
time maintaining their dignity.
I heard the same account from another
leader in the movement, Monsignor
Sergio Valech who was arrested by the
Pinochet regime for his work with the
Vicariate. He allowed me to tour the
archives of the organization which houses
clearly catalogued correspondence, records,
arrest warrants and financial records of the
Vicariate’s ministry. However, the most
touching part of the archival materials are
the photographs of the tortured, imprisoned
or "missing" members of the
Vicariate, some of whom were eventually
buried in a dilapidated mine shaft. I left the
premises emotionally and spiritually
exhausted and found it hard to imagine
that all this took place as recently as 15
years ago. As a former member of the confessing
church movement in South Africa, I
found considerable similarities with the
church’s struggle under Apartheid, particularly
the work of the Black Sash movement
and various committees of the South
African Council of Churches. During the
most oppressive period in South Africa’s
history these church and para-church
organizations were the only sources of
peaceful resistance. It is not surprising,
therefore, that Aldunate was overjoyed
when Archbishop Desmond Tutu won the
Nobel Prize for Peace in 1989 for both had
been voices for Christ and the dispossessed
in the midst of political oppression.
What lessons can we learn from their
experience and why is it necessary to revisit
an antiquated institution? The answer lies
in the nature of Christian ministry. It is
interesting to note that during the military
rule of Pinochet, attendance at church services
increased, particularly in Roman
Catholic parishes. The facts speak for themselves.
During the last year of the Allende
regime (which preceded the Pinochet coup)
only one hundred and twelve priests were
ordained. This is in stark contrast with
1982, the zenith of Pinochet’s rule, when
895 men were brought into the priesthood.
Similarly, attendance at Mass increased
mainly as a result of poor parishioners turning
to the church in their time of need. This
does not mean, however, that all Catholic
Chileans opposed the regime for many benefited
from its policies and found Pinochet’s
opposition to the growing threat of communism
to be a source of stability. Many,
therefore, found the Vicariate and its supporters
to be politically subversive and they
actively sought to undermine its mission to
the poor through cuts in funding to the
organization. Even today the remnants of
the feud between the pro Junta and anti
government activists are still in evidence.
There is still a latent tension between sincere
Christians on both sides and this is
seen most clearly in debates regarding the
current charges against Pinochet who is
now in his dotage. Nevertheless, I was
impressed with the way that Chile, like
South Africa, has dealt with former atrocities
and there seems to be a general spirit
of reconciliation at work in the country.
At the time of the cuts to the funding,
however, the opponents of the government
were not deterred from their mission.
This was evident in the tacit support the
Vicariate received from Cardinal Silva, who
was the primate of Chile at that time. He
tried to protect the church from Pinochet’s
wrath and even had frequent meetings with
the president. He realized that the mission
rested on a knife’s edge. However, as
Aldunate said, "The Cardinal had tea with
Pinochet in order that he could get in as
many kicks as possible under the table!"
The new, post Pinochet era has created
a very different context for the Church.
In contrast to the Pinochet era, Chile is now
a progressive and affluent nation with a
democratically elected government, a thriving
mining industry, a burgeoning salmon
producing industry and the production of
some of the world’s finest wines. While the
poor exist, particularly in the rural areas,
average Chileans are turning their backs on
the Catholic Church. As an alternate
expression of their faith, they are turning to
Pentecostal and evangelical Protestant
churches. This movement is so great that
according to Paul Hoff, the head of the
Instituto Biblica Nacional de Chile (the bible
college that trains Pentecostal pastors), the
need to educate ministers has reached a
crisis point. This situation was foreseen by
Bishop Francisco Anabalon the charismatic
leader of the National Evangelical Pastor’s
Council who created the Institute in 1978
and today there are over 5,000 churches
seeking trained pastors. The prodigious
growth of these churches is the product of
a spiritual revival which began in 1909 and
has developed through the creation of
small cell groups (locales) which meet in
homes. The revival originated in Valparaiso
during a Methodist service. The worshippers
were overcome with an emotional experience
of the Holy Spirit that led to the conversion
of 6,000 people. Today this movement
flourishes in the thriving economy of
the new Chile. According to Philip Jenkins,
Chile is the home of the Jotabeche
Methodist Pentecostal Church which has
over 80,000 members whose cathedral can
seat 18,000. Many such denominations
place a great emphasis on personal responsibility
and religious freedom which intersect
with the zeitgeist and political philosophy
of the country.
What makes this movement so powerful
and why such a mass appeal? Is it just
a matter of good technique with its emphasis
on small-group development or is it
more a sense of its theological impact on
people’s lives? The answer is both. The
revival appeals to people who have lived
under the influence of neo-pagan beliefs
which were wedded to Roman Catholic
eschatology. The syncretistic blend of native
rituals and Catholic views of the afterlife
tended to oppress people with its emphasis
on fatalism and divine punishment. The
poor often believed that they lived in that
condition by virtue of something that they,
or their ancestors, had done wrong and
they felt the constraint of guilt. The revival
offers people an alternative which promises
them an unmediated experience of the Holy
Spirit and an assurance of divine salvation
through the grace of Christ alone. This
bypasses the intermediary cosmology of the
Animistas and gives them a source of freedom
from fear and obligations to the dead.
It also empowers the poor who have no
earthly power or wealth. By becoming leaders
in the church and actively participating
in the religious life of the community, they
experience the joy and freedom of service.
Furthermore, becoming a pastor grants a
person recognition within the faith community
even with little or no academic training.
Therefore, the theology of the revival
and the ecclesiology which it creates
enhances the lives of the people and gives
them a sense of worth and belonging.
Many Pentecostal leaders, however, are
deeply concerned that this movement must
develop along sound trinitarian theological
lines and not stray into a highly subjective
path where personal experience is elevated
above biblical revelation. The dangers of
this can be clearly seen in North America
with the rapid growth of the Lakewood
Church which downplays doctrine and denigrates
the need for sound biblical theology.
What lessons can the Church in
Canada learn from the experience of the
Chilean Christians? Clearly there are similarities
and differences between the two
movements that I have outlined and while
neither adheres to the Protestant tradition,
some of the underlying principles speak to
us with clarity and are an inspiration. The
Vicariate was a politically left of centre
movement driven by a theology of liberation
which borrowed from neo-Marxist
political theory. The Pentecostal revival is
more economically conservative in its views
and is deliberately apolitical. The former
arose within the context of a hierarchical
ecclesiology that became more egalitarian
while the latter arose in base communities
and has become more authoritative.
However, despite these differences both the
Vicariate and the revival have developed in
small communities of faith where shared
experiences and bonds of fellowship have
created strong spiritual ties between their
members. They are also both very biblical
and Christ-centred. While they might not
see it in each other, they both subscribe to
a vision of the kingdom of God that is rooted
in the cross. They simply stress different
aspects of the same Gospel.
The Vicariate found its courage
through the power of the Spirit and prayer
which enabled it to share in Christ’s preferential
option for the poor. Its proponents
left me humbled by their willingness to suffer
imprisonment or death for sake of
standing with the oppressed. They clearly
believed the words of Jesus’ Sermon on the
Mount and, driven by a commitment to the
cross, created the Communialis de Base as
expressions of Christ’s presence among the
poor.
The revival, on the other hand, stresses
the power of Christ’s resurrection and
the salvation which He brings through the
power of the Holy Spirit among His people.
The home churches are a refuge for the
poor, lost, and lonely people, providing
them with a sense of worth in the midst of
an increasingly materialistic and commercialized
world.
Both of these groups, therefore,
turned to Christ in their need. During politically
dangerous days when Chile was a
pawn in the game of the Cold War, the
church was a source of justice for the
oppressed and in these days of increased
affluence it is a haven to lost souls who are
seeking meaning in their lives. I found the
exponents of both movements to be
remarkably orthodox and humble in their
assessment of their respective roles in society.
In North America we are beginning to drift away from such an attitude towards the faith.
With the rift that exists between the "left" and the "right" we overlook the Spirit's
presence and His call for faithfulness and reconciliation. In our affluent society we
have the luxury of dealing with penultimate rather than ultimate realities and this is
reflected in our obsession with styles of worship, numerical growth and lax moral teachings.
We have become captivated with a market-driven faith that seeks to appeal to a culture that
is, as one of the leading Anglican leaders I interviewed in Santiago suggested "returning
to its pagan roots by endorsing sexual immorality, turning its back on Jesus Christ and
worshipping at the altar of materialism and hedonism". Rather than growing in the likeness
of Christ and having the courage to stand against the tide of culture, he believes that we
are regressing and acting as if Christ had never come in the flesh. A damning indictment by
any standards!
We can learn much from our brothers and sisters in Chile, and while they are not the
paragons of all virtue, they are certainly a sign that faith is a powerful reality. I
left Chile with a number of concrete lessons for our own context.
Small fellowship groups will be a necessary part of a growing church's ecclesiology.
The Chilean church in both its forms created small and intimate gatherings as a means
of spiritual support. The mainline church in Canada is rapidly becoming what William
Willimon and Stanley Hauerwas called resident aliens in our culture. No longer can we
expect our society to adopt our values, beliefs and ideas just because we are an
historical and physical presence in our nation; nor are people turning to our churches
to perform social rites of passage. This should not discourage us because as we saw with
the Catholic Church in the 1980's, losing social influence can actually enhance church
growth. Large congregations may thrive and flourish in some situations, but the need for
people to connect in an intimate way with other Christians necessitates the existence of
small groups where believers can receive mutual support and nourishment. It is through
the development of these fellowship groups where learning and growth can take place in
a less threatening environment. However, the warning is clear from the revival groups in
Chile, these groups must be led by trained people and remain centred on biblical teaching
and stay connected to a larger community of faith.
- For the church to be relevant it must be faithful. In Canada we feel the need to make
Christianity relevant in order that it might be accepted by our culture. In Chile, the
opposite is true. Chileans believe that the Gospel is relevant and is the incarnation
of the truth. Therefore, for society to rest on a foundation of love, forgiveness, hope
and justice, it must be called to adopt the relevance of the truth through conversion
to the Gospel. They see human identity as distorted through sin and corruption unless
it is transformed through the power of Christ's spirit. Only then can humanity live in
a state of grace. That was central to the teachings of members of the Vicariate and is
at the core of the revival experience. To deny the reality of Christ's cross and resurrection
is to take a backward step and return to the myths of a pagan world which stressed earthly
power, superstition and fear. This should be something that is taken into consideration by
any group or church who wants to create a new statement of faith.
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- For the church to be prophetic it must practice what it preaches. Faith and deeds must go
together. While sin negates all human attempts to attain divinity, the Chileans realize that
an authentic proclamation must be embodied in a church that practices justice, peace and
reconciliation. In that regard it has played an active role in bringing a deeply divided
culture together. We must do likewise. The world in which we live might lack a moral centre
and lapse into ethical relativism, but it still recognizes hypocrisy when it sees it. The
church in Canada has a less than stellar history in many ways and therefore, believers need
to be vigilant in looking to Christ Jesus alone as its guide and example. As Martin Luther
said crux probat omnia (the cross is the test of everything.)
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Contributors to this Issue
Dr. Paul Miller is minister
of First Grantham United
Church, St. Catharines,
Ontario and Editor of
Theological Digest and
Outlook.
Rev. Dr. Andrew Stirling is
Senior Minister of Timothy
Eaton Memorial Church in
Toronto, Ontario.
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